Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Charlotte, who blogs at Looking After Your Pennies.
Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.
I’m Charlotte Jessop and my blog is called Looking After Your Pennies. Here, I write about ways that you can have an eco-friendly life whilst keeping a good grip on your budget. I have two small children aged three and one, so much of what I write about is aimed at family life. There’s also a Mr Jessop who is my partner is all things and makes family life that much more enjoyable. Together we enjoy outdoor pursuits such as camping, swimming, cycling and running/walking.
What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?
There are two years and three months between my two, and their relationship is blossoming. They’ve always loved each other but sometimes this was hard to manage as my eldest would want to squidge her tiny baby sister.
What was the hardest thing about having a second child?
Managing the relationship between the two siblings. As my youngest is still pretty young she needs protecting from things such as small toys and isn’t able to do things in the same way as my eldest. Therefore, my eldest gets frustrated when she doesn’t play properly or we can’t play certain games with the little one around. I put a lot of effort into trying to find things that are entertaining for both of them and that can be exhausting.
What was the best thing about having a second child?
Our family is complete. We now have two wonderful children who we love so much. On top of this they make each laugh so much. We get most laughs out of our children in each other’s hands and that is awesome.
Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?
Our pram has a bar on the back that my eldest can stand on, so we didn’t need a buggy board. But this sort of device would be my recommendation. Two year olds and three year olds do not want to walk places when they see their sister getting a ride in a pram. Having this meant our eldest could jump on and off at her leisure.
What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?
Make time for both your children. They will both want you and need you. Try to carve just a few minutes each day for each child and they will thank you for it. Plus it’s OK to lose it every now and again. I’m fairly sure that is normal.
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