Welcome back to Meet the Parents! This week we’re hearing from Lisa, who blogs at Pass the Prosecco Please.
Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.
I’m a thirty(ish) year old wife and mummy to two year old William, my mancub, and we live in Kent. I started my blog a few months ago as a sort of diary and way of dealing with birth trauma and post natal depression. I figured why write a diary when I could try blogging, and I loved the community spirit of “The Bloggerhood” and have loved meeting new people in the virtual sense. I’ve had some lovely feedback and its nice to know that other people feel the same as I have, it’s opened my eyes to a whole new world.
What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?
My own pillow – the hospital ones are not very comfortable and its nice to have something of your own to snuggle in to and keep you happy and calm.
Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?
An emergency caesarean. I ended up having one after a failed induction and it was a shock when I had believed I would give birth naturally. Just go with the flow, anything could happen. Take big high knickers and mega comfortable clothes just in case. Maternity joggers with the band are ideal, holds your tummy steady and they are easy to get on and off.
Yes! My best buy pre-caesarean were some size 22 full briefs from Asda (I’m usually a size 10). Perfect for not rubbing on the c-section wound.
What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?
Sleepsuits. Lots and lots of sleepsuits. A newborn doesn’t need outfits and shoes and jeans, just a lot of sleepsuits. Comfy and snug for them whatever the weather and easy to change. Because newborn babies need changing a lot!
What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?
Take every bit of pain relief they offer you if you need it, don’t be a hero! I’m not saying its a bad thing to not need any but I did and it didn’t make me a lesser person or mother just because I accepted pain relief. Its a huge shock to your body and its exhausting however you give birth; be kind to yourself. Kudos to any ladies that do it on no pain relief 🙂
What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?
Everyone told us our life would end; that we would never go out again and that life would be awful because we would never sleep again and our lives were basically over. Yes, its hard but you have this new little person to love and care for and life is amazing; its enriched and so worth never sleeping again. Which is a fib, we slept again, we can go out and we don’t miss our old pre-child life at all. Well I do miss my pre-child figure a little… but that’s about it…
I agree. Life is very different, yes, but it’s far from over!
What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?
Be kind to yourself. Having a baby is physically and emotionally exhausting, and you need to rest no matter how you give birth. Accept any help that is offered, both in hospital/birth centre and at home. Have the first two weeks at home with minimal visitors, enjoy the special time with you and your new baby.
What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?
You expect to know everything all at once and it to all come naturally and be easy. Its so hard, being exhausted, and having your priorities completely shift. You want to sleep a lot, and rest because of any pain or discomfort you might have but instead you are awake every 1, 2 or 3 hours to feed and care for your new little person. Just go with it, it will get better!
What’s the best thing about being a new parent?
Overnight I went from being just me to being “Mummy”, and having a little person who loved me more than anyone in the world and who I loved more than anyone in the world. And knowing that you grew this little baby, nurtured and carried it, you feel like the most clever and amazing person ever! It’s the most amazing feeling ever and there is no feeling like it. That love is the most precious thing ever, enjoy every moment of it.