“Have you got your ovulation stopwatch working yet?”
This was a question asked of hubby recently by a friend at a ‘man’ event recently. It amused me greatly when hubby first told me about it but as he went on to tell me more about the conversation he’d had it transpired that actually this friend and his wife had been ‘trying’ for some time without success, and are now seeking medical help for their fertility issues. I won’t go into it any further as it’s not my story to tell.
We saw some other friends at the weekend who have a beautiful 13 month old little boy; we were chatting about my blog and I was saying I’ve sort of run out of things to say about my personal journey for the time being (more on that another time, perhaps). My friend told me about a couple she is friendly with who always made a point of saying that they didn’t want to have children, despite seemingly loving being around other people’s babies in the friendship group.
Then, out of the blue, this couple announced that they were expecting. It turned out that they’d been trying for more than 18 months and it just hadn’t happened. My friend questioned why they didn’t say anything, and this got me thinking.
Why don’t people talk about their fertility? Is it because we feel like we’ve failed in some way if it doesn’t happen straight away? Because it’s too upsetting to talk about?
I’m a talker. As my poor hubby knows, if something is bothering me I will talk about it continuously until I feel I’ve come to some form of resolution. That’s partly why I started this blog, after all. But for some reason the topic of fertility seems to be something that so few people talk about (in my experience anyway).
Perhaps this needs to change.